Tuesday, May 24, 2005
The Cry Face
Maybe I can be more on top of things. You know, keep this current. With all the things going on in my life with a family it's hard to keep this up to date. I'm going to try harder (Haven't I actually said those same words before?).
What's happening? Everything! Dane continues to be the best boy ever! He certainly is the center of the universe in our small family.
A couple of weekends ago, we all went to Dane's first MLB game. Dressed in all the right colors, sporting a ball cap and pacifier, we cruised around the ballpark. He rode in style and comfort in his Snugli. At our seats, we hung out and played, until the first homerun. As the crowd began to roar, my son, who has never heard such a scary sound, began to get the "cry face." I held him close as he whimpered a little and all way okay. After that, the crowd noise didn't bother him. The trip home was pretty short for him, as he slept from the time we put him into the carseat until we arrived at home.
Last week Dane went swimming for the first time. It was at a resort indoor swimming pool and with the other screaming children (mine, of course, not included), it was sensory overload... for me. Dane was fine with the noise. He often looked around to investigate where the annoying noises was coming from, but was pretty unaffected by the shrill screeches.
At first we had him in one of those flotation/swimming suit, but when we put him in the water we realized it was a bit big for him (the floaties floated up and covered his face). So he hung out in Daddy's arms. The water was a little cold ("I can't even stay in... it's FREEZING," Renee says through clattering teeth), but I held him close and he got used to it. He laughed and giggled as he kicked and paddled around. He may not be able to walk, but he knows how to swim (not really swim, but let the proud Daddy have his moment). A couple of times he dropped his head a little for some water... choke... cough... grin! He loved it!
Yesterday was a tough day for everyone. Dane is at daycare 2 days a week with friend of the family. It was my day to drop him off. I handed him off to Anne and he gave the "cry face." I told Anne he was pretty sleepy on the way over and ready for a nap. He held out his arms and just looked at me with his "cry face." I picked him up and held him for a minute. He stopped and I handed him to Anne. The "cry face" returns and I feel like crap. I called Renee and let her know what happened. She called me later and told me he cried himself to sleep. That just breaks my heart! Of course he woke up later and was doing great. No problems. I can understand how people spoil there kids. You never want them to ever have adversity in their lives, but that's the way the world is. You can't protect them from everything and that's the hardest thing to watch. However, I've seen the other side of it. Where parent protected there child from everything, and the child is unable to function in the world because of it.
ANYWAY... You get the gist...
What's happening? Everything! Dane continues to be the best boy ever! He certainly is the center of the universe in our small family.
A couple of weekends ago, we all went to Dane's first MLB game. Dressed in all the right colors, sporting a ball cap and pacifier, we cruised around the ballpark. He rode in style and comfort in his Snugli. At our seats, we hung out and played, until the first homerun. As the crowd began to roar, my son, who has never heard such a scary sound, began to get the "cry face." I held him close as he whimpered a little and all way okay. After that, the crowd noise didn't bother him. The trip home was pretty short for him, as he slept from the time we put him into the carseat until we arrived at home.
Last week Dane went swimming for the first time. It was at a resort indoor swimming pool and with the other screaming children (mine, of course, not included), it was sensory overload... for me. Dane was fine with the noise. He often looked around to investigate where the annoying noises was coming from, but was pretty unaffected by the shrill screeches.
At first we had him in one of those flotation/swimming suit, but when we put him in the water we realized it was a bit big for him (the floaties floated up and covered his face). So he hung out in Daddy's arms. The water was a little cold ("I can't even stay in... it's FREEZING," Renee says through clattering teeth), but I held him close and he got used to it. He laughed and giggled as he kicked and paddled around. He may not be able to walk, but he knows how to swim (not really swim, but let the proud Daddy have his moment). A couple of times he dropped his head a little for some water... choke... cough... grin! He loved it!
Yesterday was a tough day for everyone. Dane is at daycare 2 days a week with friend of the family. It was my day to drop him off. I handed him off to Anne and he gave the "cry face." I told Anne he was pretty sleepy on the way over and ready for a nap. He held out his arms and just looked at me with his "cry face." I picked him up and held him for a minute. He stopped and I handed him to Anne. The "cry face" returns and I feel like crap. I called Renee and let her know what happened. She called me later and told me he cried himself to sleep. That just breaks my heart! Of course he woke up later and was doing great. No problems. I can understand how people spoil there kids. You never want them to ever have adversity in their lives, but that's the way the world is. You can't protect them from everything and that's the hardest thing to watch. However, I've seen the other side of it. Where parent protected there child from everything, and the child is unable to function in the world because of it.
ANYWAY... You get the gist...
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It truely is a balance. I see it everyday working with kids in mental health. You can let the world raise your child, but if you're going to take that risk, you will probably pay in the end... or at the very least, your child will. And that really is the unfortunate part.
We have parents coming in all the time saying, "My child is out of control, fix him." It's usually around the time the child is as big or bigger than the parent. The world has taught their child that might makes right and this child is going to do what every they want. The parent, who has been pretty much out of the picture, now has to deal with him. Why would a child who never had to follow the discipline of their parents, randomly start doing so?
Well... that's what the medication is for!
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We have parents coming in all the time saying, "My child is out of control, fix him." It's usually around the time the child is as big or bigger than the parent. The world has taught their child that might makes right and this child is going to do what every they want. The parent, who has been pretty much out of the picture, now has to deal with him. Why would a child who never had to follow the discipline of their parents, randomly start doing so?
Well... that's what the medication is for!
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